Compersion cannot be found in the standard dictionary, but Wikipedia defines it as “an empathetic state of happiness and joy experienced when another individual experiences happiness and joy.”

Compersion as a term is often used in the poly community and is cited as being an experience of transformative bliss. It is reported as being sometimes challenging to let go of feelings of jealousy if a loved one is experiencing intimacy with another before our very eyes but there is an opportunity for unprecedented personal growth for those able to step into this space…

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Sex, Gender and Sexual Orientation

When I facilitate groups I am often struck by the lack of agreement or understanding around sex, gender and sexual orientation. There are even differing opinions amongst experts in these fields. My definition of these terms is based in workability and simplicity; may aim is to support people in understanding their experiences therefore my definitions need to be simple and make a difference in their lives.

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Polyamory Questions

Here are some of the questions I have had to date about polyamory and some of my provisional answers. I am very much learning with the people I am supporting in their journeys. Feel free to email me your questions (and answers if you have them).

Q: If sex is present and the type of poly is ‘Don’t ask, don’t tell’, what’s the difference between poly and open relationships?

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